What is blind gossip? It is a gossip column that reports stories about famous people without revealing their identities; which is known as a blind item. William d'Alton Mann (1829-1920) is credited, for the invention of the Blind Item, who often used it for blackmail.
But today I am not here to talk about Blind Gossip columns or famous people. I am here to talk about Gossip in general and discuss why people talk negatively about one another.
Why Do People Gossip?
Here are some reasons why people gossip. These are the top 5 in my opinion as to why people Gossip.
In some cases, people Gossip to make themselves feel more important or Superior by putting others down.
This type of Gossip usually stems from low self-esteem or self-confidence. This kind of person usually puts people down to feel better about themselves.
This type of Gossip comes from a lack of self-worth. This kind of person is trying to be a part of the in-crowd and vying for some attention.
This type of Gossip is what is known as an Instigator. This kind of person is trying to stir up trouble between two or more people to see what will happen; so they can sit back and watch the fireworks.
This type of Gossiper secretly wishes they were more like the person or persons they are speaking ill of, and they are Jealous or Envious of what these people have that they don't.
This type of Gossip stems from Hurt and Anger. This kind of person is spreading Gossip and Rumors with the sole intent to try and tarnish someone's reputation.
Gossiping in the Workplace
I am sure you hear Gossip all the time in your place of work. I know I sure do, and it upsets me. I have a short fuse when someone comes up to me and asks me a question about someone else's personal life.
I usually tell this person that I don't know and if you want to know something about them, go and ask them yourself. Because I have enough things going on in my personal life to worry about; without worrying about what other people do, or don't do.
I figured out a long time ago if I have a question or want to know something about someone; what better place to get the information than from the actual person. This way you are getting your answers as the old saying goes; straight from the horse's mouth.
I hate when someone approaches me at work, and the first words that come out of their mouths are; did you hear about so and so. I would much rather hear about what you are doing in your life.
There are two ways to look at someone who Gossips.
First, if you have something you want everyone to know; just tell a Gossip and you won't have to repeat it to everyone else because the Gossiper will do it for you.
Second, never tell a Gossip anything you don't want anyone else to know; because you can't trust them to keep quiet or keep a secret.
Gossip in the News
I don't watch the News nor do I read Newspapers. There is usually nothing but the negative stuff in either one. I'm not saying that I am unsympathetic or non-caring towards these kinds of things.
But personally, I would rather not hear about a bunch of stuff I can't do anything about or change in any way.
Life is simple; we make it hard and arduous by always worrying about things which are out of our control. The News Media plays on our emotions because they know the negative reports is what sells and keeps you tuned in.
Have you ever noticed the weather, is also stated in a negative way? (example) There is a 50% chance of rain today. They could just as easily have said there is a 50% chance of sunshine today.
Here are some things to think about or ponder on.
Well; I have the answers for you.
Here are some of the ways your Life would change if you stopped focusing your attention on the negativity of the News Media.
You would be much Happier.
You wouldn't be stressed out and worrying all the time about things out of your control.
Your health would improve.
You would have a more positive outlook on Life.
You would gain an overall sense of well-being.
I am a very Positive Type of Person, and I believe in The Law of Attraction. Some of you might be wondering.
What is The Law of Attraction?
Let me see if I can explain it by asking you a couple of questions. Have you ever met someone who no matter what everything just seems to work for them? And they are always so Damn Happy?
If so; then these people are using The Law of Attraction whether they know it or not.
The Short Version.
The Law of Attraction and how it works.
If you are a positive type of person and always focused on positive thoughts and feelings, the Universe Allows Opportunities for more of these feelings and thoughts to occur in your life because it believes that is what you want. Because; it's where your focus is.
If you are a negative type of person and always focused on negative thoughts and feelings, the opposite occurs and the Universe Allows Opportunities for more of these feelings and thoughts to happen in your life.
The Bottom Line!
You get what you think about most of the time.
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Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)