What is Blind Gossip

What is blind gossip? It is a gossip column that reports stories about famous people without revealing their identities; which is known as a blind item. William d'Alton Mann (1829-1920) is credited, for the invention of the Blind Item, who often used it for blackmail.
 
But today I am not here to talk about Blind Gossip columns or famous people. I am here to talk about Gossip in general and discuss why people talk negatively about one another.
 
 

Why Do People Gossip?

 
Here are some reasons why people gossip. These are the top 5 in my opinion as to why people Gossip.
 
  • In some cases, people Gossip to make themselves feel more important or Superior by putting others down.
This type of Gossip usually stems from low self-esteem or self-confidence. This kind of person usually puts people down to feel better about themselves.  
 
 
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  • Sometimes people gossip to be the center of attention and to fit in.

This type of Gossip comes from a lack of self-worth. This kind of person is trying to be a part of the in-crowd and vying for some attention.

 

  • Some people Gossip out of boredom.

This type of Gossip is what is known as an Instigator. This kind of person is trying to stir up trouble between two or more people to see what will happen; so they can sit back and watch the fireworks.

 
 
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  • Some people Gossip because they are Jealous or Envious of the person they are talking about.

This type of Gossiper secretly wishes they were more like the person or persons they are speaking ill of, and they are Jealous or Envious of what these people have that they don't. 

 

  • Sometimes people Gossip because they have a grudge against a particular person or persons.

This type of Gossip stems from Hurt and Anger. This kind of person is spreading Gossip and Rumors with the sole intent to try and tarnish someone's reputation. 

 

Gossiping in the Workplace

 
I am sure you hear Gossip all the time in your place of work. I know I sure do, and it upsets me. I have a short fuse when someone comes up to me and asks me a question about someone else's personal life.
 
I usually tell this person that I don't know and if you want to know something about them, go and ask them yourself. Because I have enough things going on in my personal life to worry about; without worrying about what other people do, or don't do.
 
I figured out a long time ago if I have a question or want to know something about someone; what better place to get the information than from the actual person. This way you are getting your answers as the old saying goes; straight from the horse's mouth.
 
 
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I hate when someone approaches me at work, and the first words that come out of their mouths are; did you hear about so and so. I would much rather hear about what you are doing in your life.
 
There are two ways to look at someone who Gossips.
 
First, if you have something you want everyone to know; just tell a Gossip and you won't have to repeat it to everyone else because the Gossiper will do it for you.
 
Second, never tell a Gossip anything you don't want anyone else to know; because you can't trust them to keep quiet or keep a secret.
 
 

Gossip in the News 

I don't watch the News nor do I read Newspapers. There is usually nothing but the negative stuff in either one. I'm not saying that I am unsympathetic or non-caring towards these kinds of things.

 

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But personally, I would rather not hear about a bunch of stuff I can't do anything about or change in any way.
 
Life is simple; we make it hard and arduous by always worrying about things which are out of our control. The News Media plays on our emotions because they know the negative reports is what sells and keeps you tuned in.
 
Have you ever noticed the weather, is also stated in a negative way? (example) There is a 50% chance of rain today. They could just as easily have said there is a 50% chance of sunshine today. 
 
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Here are some things to think about or ponder on.
 
  • What if the news media only reported all of the good things which are also happening in the World?
  • How would your life change, if you were no longer focused; on all of the negativity?
 


Well; I have the answers for you.  

 
Here are some of the ways your Life would change if you stopped focusing your attention on the negativity of the News Media.
 
  • You would be much Happier.
  • You wouldn't be stressed out and worrying all the time about things out of your control.
  • Your health would improve.
  • You would have a more positive outlook on Life.
  • You would gain an overall sense of well-being.
 
I am a very Positive Type of Person, and I believe in The Law of Attraction. Some of you might be wondering.
 

What is The Law of Attraction?

 
Let me see if I can explain it by asking you a couple of questions. Have you ever met someone who no matter what everything just seems to work for them? And they are always so Damn Happy?
 
 
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If so; then these people are using The Law of Attraction whether they know it or not.
 


The Short Version.

 
The Law of Attraction and how it works.
 
If you are a positive type of person and always focused on positive thoughts and feelings, the Universe Allows Opportunities for more of these feelings and thoughts to occur in your life because it believes that is what you want. Because; it's where your focus is.
 
If you are a negative type of person and always focused on negative thoughts and feelings, the opposite occurs and the Universe Allows Opportunities for more of these feelings and thoughts to happen in your life.
 

The Bottom Line!

 
You get what you think about most of the time.
 
If you would like to learn more about The Law of Attraction, I would recommend reading these books.
 
 
 
  
 
 
 
 
 
If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
 
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website. Or post it to Social Media.
 
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

10 thoughts on “What is Blind Gossip”

  1. Hello Dale!

    Not enough is said about the toxic effects of gossip. It finally sunk in when I was recommended a book called “A complaint Free World”, by Will Bowen. You’ve probably heard about it. Long story short, I stopped. I mean, full stop. Sometimes I really get the urge to go back to saying something detrimental, but at least I am fully aware when it happens. I also have a grandmother who is hell bent on starting fires, pitting people against one another, as you mention. It’s really not fun. I thank you for shedding some light into this all-too-common activity and its undesirable effects on our lives.

    1. Hey Joe,

      The reason I wrote this post is that I hear way too many people talking about and putting down other people. It just makes me Angry and Sad. I know too many people like your Grandmother, who loves starting fires just to see what will happen.

      In my opinion, these people need to get a life. We all have problems of our own we could be working on instead of always talking about someone else’s problems. But then that would require taking a deeper look at oneself, and most people are afraid of what they would see.

      Great book you mentioned by the way.

      Dale

  2. Gossiping is never good because if you participate in gossip eventually you’ll be the subject of it! The same is true for the Law of Attraction, what you put out in the world is what you get back. Gossip is negative energy, put it out, you’ll get it back. Spend your time building people up and it will come back to you. You will feel better doing good things rather than spreading gossip and doing harm. No one ever gossips compliments..

    1. Hey Diana,

      Yes, Diana, Gossiping is never good, and you will always be the subject of it if you are around these types, of people.

      I especially like the ones who are two-faced and act like friends to your face and then the minute you turn your back they are gossiping about you.

      People have a right to think and believe what they want to. But it upsets me when I hear someone gossiping about someone else.

      I am a very healthy minded individual, and I don’t care what people say about me behind my back. I won’t lose any sleep over it at all.

      Dale

  3. I believe strongly in the law of attraction, I believe whatever you put out there comes right back to you, which is why I don’t like to engage in gossip. I tend to steer clear of people who like gossiping about others. I usually say to myself, if he/she is doing it to their friend(s) chances are they are also gossiping about me. That type of behaviour hurts others and usually causes emotional damage.

    1. Hey Reneea,

      You are correct whatever we send out comes back to us. It would be great if more people understood this. If you see people gossiping about other people, then chances are they are gossiping about you as well.

      And you are right about it causing emotional damage to some individuals who are being the subject of gossip. Especially if the person is not as strongly minded as others and able to allow things to roll off their backs.

      Dale

  4. I feel the same way you do about gossip. I don’t understand it and was never the type to participate in any of that.
    I am also a positive type person but I wouldn’t say I’m happy all the time. It seems I need to learn more about the Law of Attraction. I’ve heard of a couple of those books but haven’t gotten around to reading yet. I will soon, thanks!!

    1. Hey Gabriela,
      I have always hated Gossip. I guess some people just don’t have anything better to do in their lives.

      Yes, Gabriela, It’s hard for anybody to be happy all of the time and that’s ok. The problem I see is when you are unhappy more so than being happy.

      If you lean more to the sad side of life, then something in your life needs to change.

      The Law of Attraction is very powerful! It is about changing the way you look and think about things in life so that you can manifest whatever it is which you desire.

      Every book I mention on my website, I have read many times, and every time I’ve read them I usually get something more out of them.

      Gabriela, You are so welcome!
      Please visit again and if you have any questions or if I can be of help in some way, please don’t hesitate to ask.

      Warmest Wishes!
      Dale

  5. Hi Dale. When people choose to gossip about others they do so from the ego mind. i think it’s safe to say that most of us have seen or participated in this type of behavior. Sometimes it can happen without even realizing it, especially in a work setting. When we try to look within ourselves and recognize that the ego is not really who we are, then we can be mindful of ego thinking and begin the process of shedding its grip on our behavior.Thanks as always for your keen insight!

    1. Hey Johnny,
      You too have great insight, my friend. You hit the nail on the head with that comment Johnny; too many of us allow our egos to control our behavior instead of us learning to manage our ego’s.

      For a person to be able to change oneself, we have to take a hard look at what we fear and hate about ourselves and start there.

      Warmest Regards!
      Dale

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