Mind Your On Business-I-Mind-My Business

Hey Everybody, Today's topic I would like to discuss is why you should mind your on business. How often do we not only stick our noses where it doesn't belong but isn't wanted nor needed? We always seem to have an opinion as to what others should or should not do, but yet our on lives are a mess.
 
I know we all seem to have this urge to want to help someone else, and this is very admirable. It is one thing when someone asks for your opinion but yet another to just offer without being asked which most of us do. I have struggled and strived to learn how to mind my on business unless I am asked, for advice about something.
 
"Get your nose out of everybody else's garden. Get your own in order, and stop focusing on everybody else's. Grow what you want to grow in your Garden."  By Wayne W. Dyer- from a book called Staying on the Path
 
Below is a series of tough questions in which we need to dig deep down for the answers. If we can truthfully answer all of these queries and can take control, and resolve the issues in our on lives.
 
Then and only then we might be able to help someone else. But only if we are asked, and if not; mind your on business. Everyone always has an opinion which reminds me of another great quote.
 
"Who told you that it couldn't be done? And what great achievement have they to their credit that qualifies them to judge "Your Ability." By Napoleon Hill
 
  • Why is it always so much easier to focus on everyone else's problems instead of our own?
  • Why are we so afraid to face our on demons?
  • If we focus on someone else, does that make our problems go away or just take our minds off of them for a while?
  • If we haven't even learned how to confront our on issues how are we supposed to help someone else come to term with theirs?
 
Because I mind my on business, or at least, try to. I get pissed off when someone asks me a question about someone else. I have a tendency to get abrupt with that person and tell them; I don't know! I mind my on business! And if you want to know something about them; ask them yourself! I am not a huge fan of gossip either.
 
I asked myself all of the tough questions above, and I will try and share my answers with you in hopes it might be of some help for you.


Why is it always so much easier to focus on everyone else's problems instead of our own?

 
The answer I received was it is a coping method (Procrastination) to keep us from having to deal with our on problems. But the other thing I learned was to face my problems head on, and as it turns out nine out of ten times, things aren't as bad as you think.
 


Why are we so afraid to face our on demons?

 
The answer I received was we are afraid to face our on Demons because of the Fear of Failure. We are scared of being judged by others if we don't succeed. So, therefore, it is much easier not to even try rather than to be seen as a failure.
 
When we are offering others advice, we have no fear of failure because it's not us dealing with our problems; it's someone else's, and it is someone else's failure if they don't succeed. Not ours!
 
When we have a Fear of Failure, it always comes back to Seeking Approval. When you seek approval, you are saying to yourself someone else's view of you is more important to you than your opinion of yourself.     Refer to the Napoleon Hill quote above!
 


If we focus on someone else, does that make our problems go away or just take our minds off of them for a while?

 
The answer I received is no! Focusing on someone else's problems doesn't make ours go away. It might take your mind off of them for a while, but they will continue to rear their ugly head until you find the courage to deal with them.
 
The sooner you dig down deep and find the courage. The sooner you can get on with your life and put it behind you. In a few years, you will look back at your life and realize just how insignificant most of the problems you were afraid to face really where.
 


If we haven't even learned how to confront our on issues how are we supposed to help someone else come to term with theirs?

 
The answer I received was sometimes we can help someone with an issue they have if we have been through something similar, but again only if they ask for your advice.
 
The biggest thing is though if someone asks for your help and then doesn't take it don't get upset and take it personally. We tend to do that. We have to remember we are just offering someone a suggestion, and it doesn't make it right or wrong.
 
Each person has to figure out for themselves what's right for them, and in most cases they just want a person to listen, and a shoulder to cry on.
 

If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
 
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Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

What Is A Reputation

Hey Everyone, Today I want to discuss the topic of reputations. What is a reputation and why is it important to have a good one?
 

What Is A Reputation?

A Reputation is an opinion or belief on how others view you, like a habit or a characteristic you might have; such as being an honest or dishonest person. Reputation is also a label other people put on you such as whether you are considered a good or a bad guy/gal. Or you have a particular skill in which you are either good/bad at doing.
 
I am the kind of person who doesn't care what other people's opinions are of me, in particular, and I hate labels in which people place on you. What I care about more is my opinion of myself. But, your reputation always precedes you, and people will always have an opinion whether you like it or not. Just the same as you and I will, about others.
 
What-Is-A-Reputation                    Everyone-Has-Their-Own-Opinion


What Is The Importance Of A Good Reputation?

In my opinion, one of the main reasons for having a good reputation is people are going to talk about you whether you like it or not. So, do you want to be known as a liar, bully, thief, a braggart, or a person whom other people look down on, etc. or someone people can believe in, trust and look up too?
 
Here are a few reasons why it could be important to have a good reputation.
  • A person is only as good as their word.
  • It helps you out in life struggles because other people are more willing to help you when you need it.
  • It just makes life easier!
But, don't create a good reputation for yourself because of what others think of you, though. Do it for yourself because you take pride in who you are as a person.
 
Benjamin Franklin said, "It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it."


I Have A Bad Reputation

You might ask. What do I do if I have a bad reputation? How can I change it?  Well, the first step is as with anything else in life; it's, knowing that you want or need to change. You have to start being honest with yourself as well as others.

 Always-Be-Honest

 
I believe most people are born with a kind and giving heart. The reason they end up with a bad reputation is that they don't know who they are as a person, and are just trying to fit in somewhere. Therefore they end up hanging out with what is considered the wrong crowd and making up stories to try and impress them; just to fit in.
 
One thing you need to be aware of if you begin the journey in changing your reputation. People whom you thought where your friends start falling by the wayside; or they try and hold you back. Hopefully, some of them will want to join you in your journey.
 
Also be aware that people who know you, are not going to believe you are changing your ways. It will take some time to earn their trust and possibly forgiveness. But as long as you begin by being honest with them, as well as yourself. They will eventually come around.


How To Tell If Someone Is Trustworthy?

All you have to do to tell if someone is trustworthy and have a good reputation is to listen and observe, their actions; Because actions speak louder than words. A reliable person is not always bragging about what they did or didn't do. They usually are not trying to impress anyone.
 
If a trustworthy person tells you, he/she is going to do something they do it. By doing what we say were going to do is what gives a person a good reputation and makes us trustworthy. A person is only as good as their word and sometimes your word is all you have.
 
So, the next time someone asks you for help or wants you to do something for them. Think about it, before you agree to anything. Decide whether or not you can or want too before committing yourself to helping, or doing a task in which either you don't have the time or inclination to do.
 
If you agree to do something for or with someone without thinking it through, and then you don't do it, your trust and reputation go down the drain. Before you know it, and if you continue to act in this manner; you have a bad reputation and are considered not trustworthy.
 
If-You-Are Dis-Honest     Your-Reputation-Is-Crap  
 
      
Your-Trust-And-Reputation-Going-Down-The-Drain.                 
 

If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
 
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website. Or post it to Social Media.
 
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)