What Is The Point Of Being A Racist

Today I would like to talk to you about Racism. I don't know about you, but I am so sick and tired of it all. When are people going to wake up? What is the point of being a Racist? When are we going to stop teaching our children to hate just because someone is different or has a different color of skin?
Can anyone who is reading this post today say that you are a pure blood of any kind? We are all immigrants from somewhere. Me personally; I am English, Irish, Scottish and American Indian. Where did your ancestors come from?
I don't know when or where all of the hate began, but it is time to put and end to it all. We should all be banding together to put and end to all of the corruption in the world instead of hating one another.

Why Should Racism Stop?

Racism should stop because of the previous sentence above. There are enough things in this World we need to be fighting for instead of fighting each other, and we all need to band together and stop being Ignorant.
We should be standing together to fight against the FDA (Food and Drug Administration,) AMA (American Medical Association,) Big Pharma, and the crooked Government Officials.
What I am about to say may hurt a few people's feelings, but if you believe what goes on in the News, you are Naive. The Media is Owned by large corporations such as Big Pharma. Think about it. How many commercials do you see that doesn't pertain to some drugs for some illness or food that is bad for your health?
If you pay attention, the news always portrays some Racial stories to keep us at war with each other instead of focusing on the corruption that is going on all around us. If we are so focused on hating, each other things will never change.
It has always been my observation that the Media is to keep us focused on Racism and hate of each other, so we don't see what is going on in the World.
I call the government the best magicians in the World; they are excellent at slight of hand. They keep you focused on what's going on in the Media while they are doing something behind our backs which usually is not good for us.


 Will Racism Ever Stop?

Racism will never stop if we don't start teaching our children to end the hating. We need to teach our kids about racism and why it is bad. We need to show them just because someone is a different color or nationality it doesn't make them a bad person. We need to teach our children how to think not what to think.
I would like to know if as many of you feel as strongly as I do about stopping the Racism, so please leave your thoughts in the comments section below.
It is time for this World to change for the better which hasn't happened in a very long time. I can only just imagine what we could accomplish if we all stood together in unison instead of against each other. And that alone is what the government fears.
It is time for the Government to understand they work for us, not the other way around! It is time for them to know if they aren't doing the job which we pay them to do we can fire their ass! It is time for them to understand that they are not above the law, and they need to be held accountable for their actions just the same as you and me!


If you or I have a job, and we are not performing it to expectations, we get fired without any benefits! My question to you is what is the difference between them and us? Absolutely none in my opinion.
I didn't mean to get on a tangent here, but I am sick of all of the corruption in the World as well as the Racism. We all came from Our Creator, and I am happy to say I'm glad that I'm not the one in charge because I would have wiped our asses off of this Planet a long time ago.

If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t; please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
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Sincerely Dale (EFT Practitioner & Life Coach)

What is a Drama Queen

Hey everyone, today's topic is about Drama Queens. What is a drama queen? A drama queen is someone who always has to be the center of attention. They usually over exaggerate everything and blow everything out of proportion. I had one living with me for ten years. Now I don't claim to be an expert on drama queens, but I do have some experience in dealing with them.
"Just because some people are fueled by drama doesn't mean you have to attend the performance." By Cheryl Richardson
A drama queen turns every situation into an end of the world life or death event. She makes mountains out of molehills. She is a constant complainer, and responsibility is just a word in the dictionary. Everything that goes wrong in her life is always someone else fault.

The Extreme Drama Queen

In my opinion, drama queens or kings are created by not getting enough attention when they were children, so they learned how to act out dramatically to get the attention they needed and required. The extreme drama queen is always seeking for approval and according to Psychology Today, and MedlinePlus they suffer from Histrionic Personality Disorder. They believe Genes, and early childhood events may be responsible.

What is Histrionic Personality Disorder

Histrionic Personality Disorder or (HPD) is described, as a mental health condition which affects how a person thinks, how they relate to other people and how they perceive things to be. They are always seeking for attention and approval. Individuals who have (HPD), are easily influenced, are very dramatical in their speech and their emotions change rapidly. (HPD) is more often diagnosed in women, than in men.


Symptoms of (HPD) include

  • Easily influenced by other people
  • Overly dramatic and emotional
  • Blames their failures and disappointments on others
  • Always seeking for attention and approval
  • Self-Centered
  • Rapidly changing emotions
  • Usually, act and dress more seductive
  • They believe their relationships are more intimate than they are
  • Often suffer from depression and anxiety issues because of failed relationships.


Best Treatment Option

Talk therapy is the best treatment option available.
I would also like to suggest reading this book.


What is Human Genetics

Human Genetics is the scientific study of inherited variation.


In my opinion, The medical establishments always seem to blame Genetics for a lot of the problems we suffer from today. Well, I personally; do not put much faith in that. I agree that we inherit certain Genes from our parents such as eye and hair color and maybe a few other things perhaps.
But in my opinion, most of the emotional and medical problems we suffer from today can be traced back to childhood, and the way we; were raised.


  • If you are a quiet and seemingly shy person and Introvert so to speak; you were probably taught as a child not to speak unless spoken too.
  • We are all born with Cancer Cells in our bodies; whether they become active or not depends on our lifestyles and what we eat.
  • If you are a person who is a Bully, more than likely you were raised in an abusive family and treat others the way you, were treated.
  • If you are a Diabetic, more than likely it is because of the diet you have been eating your whole life. 
  • If you are a Drama Queen, or King, you were probably ignored as a child, and the only way you could get attention was to act out.


We all have our own opinions and these are mine, so take them however you wish. But none of these things have anything to do with Genetics or Genes as far as I am concerned.

If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t; please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website. Or post it to Social Media.
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

What is Blind Gossip

What is blind gossip? It is a gossip column that reports stories about famous people without revealing their identities; which is known as a blind item. William d'Alton Mann (1829-1920) is credited, for the invention of the Blind Item, who often used it for blackmail.
But today I am not here to talk about Blind Gossip columns or famous people. I am here to talk about Gossip in general and discuss why people talk negatively about one another.

Why Do People Gossip?

Here are some reasons why people gossip. These are the top 5 in my opinion as to why people Gossip.
  • In some cases, people Gossip to make themselves feel more important or Superior by putting others down.
This type of Gossip usually stems from low self-esteem or self-confidence. This kind of person usually puts people down to feel better about themselves.  


  • Sometimes people gossip to be the center of attention and to fit in.

This type of Gossip comes from a lack of self-worth. This kind of person is trying to be a part of the in-crowd and vying for some attention.


  • Some people Gossip out of boredom.

This type of Gossip is what is known as an Instigator. This kind of person is trying to stir up trouble between two or more people to see what will happen; so they can sit back and watch the fireworks.

  • Some people Gossip because they are Jealous or Envious of the person they are talking about.

This type of Gossiper secretly wishes they were more like the person or persons they are speaking ill of, and they are Jealous or Envious of what these people have that they don't. 


  • Sometimes people Gossip because they have a grudge against a particular person or persons.

This type of Gossip stems from Hurt and Anger. This kind of person is spreading Gossip and Rumors with the sole intent to try and tarnish someone's reputation. 


Gossiping in the Workplace

I am sure you hear Gossip all the time in your place of work. I know I sure do, and it upsets me. I have a short fuse when someone comes up to me and asks me a question about someone else's personal life.
I usually tell this person that I don't know and if you want to know something about them, go and ask them yourself. Because I have enough things going on in my personal life to worry about; without worrying about what other people do, or don't do.
I figured out a long time ago if I have a question or want to know something about someone; what better place to get the information than from the actual person. This way you are getting your answers as the old saying goes; straight from the horse's mouth.
I hate when someone approaches me at work, and the first words that come out of their mouths are; did you hear about so and so. I would much rather hear about what you are doing in your life.
There are two ways to look at someone who Gossips.
First, if you have something you want everyone to know; just tell a Gossip and you won't have to repeat it to everyone else because the Gossiper will do it for you.
Second, never tell a Gossip anything you don't want anyone else to know; because you can't trust them to keep quiet or keep a secret.

Gossip in the News 

I don't watch the News nor do I read Newspapers. There is usually nothing but the negative stuff in either one. I'm not saying that I am unsympathetic or non-caring towards these kinds of things.


But personally, I would rather not hear about a bunch of stuff I can't do anything about or change in any way.
Life is simple; we make it hard and arduous by always worrying about things which are out of our control. The News Media plays on our emotions because they know the negative reports is what sells and keeps you tuned in.
Have you ever noticed the weather, is also stated in a negative way? (example) There is a 50% chance of rain today. They could just as easily have said there is a 50% chance of sunshine today. 
Here are some things to think about or ponder on.
  • What if the news media only reported all of the good things which are also happening in the World?
  • How would your life change, if you were no longer focused; on all of the negativity?

Well; I have the answers for you.  

Here are some of the ways your Life would change if you stopped focusing your attention on the negativity of the News Media.
  • You would be much Happier.
  • You wouldn't be stressed out and worrying all the time about things out of your control.
  • Your health would improve.
  • You would have a more positive outlook on Life.
  • You would gain an overall sense of well-being.
I am a very Positive Type of Person, and I believe in The Law of Attraction. Some of you might be wondering.

What is The Law of Attraction?

Let me see if I can explain it by asking you a couple of questions. Have you ever met someone who no matter what everything just seems to work for them? And they are always so Damn Happy?
If so; then these people are using The Law of Attraction whether they know it or not.

The Short Version.

The Law of Attraction and how it works.
If you are a positive type of person and always focused on positive thoughts and feelings, the Universe Allows Opportunities for more of these feelings and thoughts to occur in your life because it believes that is what you want. Because; it's where your focus is.
If you are a negative type of person and always focused on negative thoughts and feelings, the opposite occurs and the Universe Allows Opportunities for more of these feelings and thoughts to happen in your life.

The Bottom Line!

You get what you think about most of the time.
If you would like to learn more about The Law of Attraction, I would recommend reading these books.
If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website. Or post it to Social Media.
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)


Have you ever felt like you were all Alone? That nobody else in the World understands or even cares about you? Are you the kind of person who hates being by themselves and all Alone? Do you think you have to have someone in your life to be happy? If so; I’ve got some news for you; we all hate being alone to some degree or another whether you’re a man or woman.
“Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness.”  By Mandy Hale
But; here is another piece of news for you. There are worse things in life than being Alone. How so, might you ask? The answer is; if you are in a Toxic Relationship. If you’re, being Verbally, Mentally, or Physically Abused; or any of the words in the list below then this is a Toxic Relationship!   
  • Dehumanized                                                          
  • Controlled There-Are-Worse-Things-Than-Being-Alone
  • Manipulated
  • Ridiculed
  • Forced
  • Trapped
  • Ignored
  • Neglected
  • Intimidated
  • Terrified
  • Powerless 
  • Fearful
“It is far better to be alone than to be in bad company.”  By George Washington
Here are a few books I would recommend reading.

 Battered Women

There is no amount of this kind of treatment or suffering better than being Alone. I have often wondered why women who are being beaten and abused stay with this type of man. I know everyone puts up a false front at the beginning of any new relationship. I also know that men of this caliber who likes to beat on women does not start out as being abusive at the commencement of the relationship.
I think if I had been born a woman instead of a man, and I ended up in this type of relationship; where a man was beating me. I would like to think he wouldn’t do it but one time because sooner, or later the son of a bit_h would go to sleep, and I would take a baseball bat to his as_. But this is one of those cases where you don’t know unless you are standing in the other person’s shoes or this particular situation.
 “… you don’t have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they get away with it that once if they know they can treat you like that, then it sets the pattern for the future.” By Jane Green 
Is this kind of treatment better than being Alone? Now I am the kind of guy who is not going to stand idly by and watch another man beat a woman. And ladies most men want either but we do not understand, and we would like to. 
So for all of you women who have been or is now in this type of relationship help us, men, to understand. Because I have seen women in the hospital who have been beaten so severely and when they get out, go right back to this person.  
I ask myself; why would anyone ever go back to someone who is mistreating them so badly? Does this person not feel worthy of a good relationship? Is it low self-esteem? Does this person feel like they need to be punished, for some reason? Did this person have an abusive home life growing up? Or is it just Insecurities? So I am asking you ladies. What is the answer?  Please leave comments!
I have heard some women say, but I love him! And they make excuses for them. (Examples) He only does it when he’s drunk, stressed out over work, having a bad day, etc. But this definitely, is not my definition of what Love is supposed to be.  
I ask any ladies who is reading this post to please leave a comment. I am not trying to Embarrass, Humiliate nor disrespect you in any way. I just want to understand because I do care, and trust me; so does all the rest of men in the world. 

Emotional Abuse in Marriage

Gentlemen, I didn’t forget about us. For the most part, women are the physically weaker sex, no offense to any women reading this post. This being said. I see a lot of men in relationships where they get Mentally and Verbally Abused, and this can be just as devastating almost as a physical beating.
Like I said earlier. I know everyone puts up a false front at the beginning of any new relationship. Mental and Verbal abuse doesn’t start at the commencement of the relationship. I see men at work all the time who cannot even do their jobs, without either their wife or girlfriend calling and badgering them about something every ten minutes.
These guys are so stressed out by the time they get off work they don’t even want to go home. I know men are also guilty of this too. We all need our personal space! Besides, if we are constantly on the phone with each other what is there to talk about when you get home?
When you get home from work is the time for family and discussing things that are important. Not during working hours. Going to work is our personal space away from our significant others, and it helps take our minds off of our family lives and problems for a little while.
So ladies and gentlemen if you are the kind of person who keeps calling or texting your man/woman every 10 or 15 minutes to check up on him/her; then stop. It is a sweet gesture every once in a while to let your significant other, know you miss them. But after a while, it starts becoming annoying.  Why-Am-I-So-Stressed-Out?
Especially if the conversation isn’t necessary or something which couldn’t wait till we get home from work. The only time you should call or text during working hours is if it’s something important which cannot wait till you get home. 
Just like with women, I have also wondered why men put up with Verbal and Mental Abuse. Here is a list of words used in verbal and mental abuse.
  • Criticized
  • Insulted
  • Guilt-Tripped
  • Lectured to
  • Put Down
  • Ridiculed
  • Controlled
  • Manipulated
  • Pressured
  • Neglected
  • Worthless 

Is this kind of treatment worse than being Alone?  The same questions apply to us men as I asked earlier in this post. Men this is your chance to leave a comment and explain to all the women who are reading and want to know the answers. So please leave your comments.

I have a saying that I use when I hear people say they hate being alone. It may sound harsh to some of you, but here it is anyhow.

“If you can’t stand being alone with yourself; What makes you think someone else can stand to be with you.”  By Dale Odom


A lot of women I know seem to have double standards when it comes to friends of the opposite sex. It is okay for them to talk to there, male friends. But if guys talk to any female friends they have; then out come’s the jealousy. A lot of men are guilty of this as well.
When men confront their significant others about double standards; and ask why is it ok for them to talk to whomever they want to. But not us. We usually get a story about how someone cheated on them.
Well; if you have ever had more than one relationship over the years guess what? We probably all have been cheated on at some time or another and had a bad experience or two. So ladies here is some Free Relationship Advice.

Relationship Advice About Men

Ladies if you have a good man, and you want to keep him. I suggest you figure out how to overcome your Insecurities and Jealousy. Because I would say, these are the main two reasons a man will leave a woman; that, and infidelity.  
When a man reaches his late twenties early thirties and beyond; at this stage of a man’s Life, he is starting to look for the right woman and settle down. But he is not going to deal with the issues mentioned above even if he loves and wants to be with you.
If you are a person who is so Jealous that your partner can not even speak to someone of the opposite sex; then you have a serious problem. This type of relationship will never work because it screams that you don’t Trust your partner. Without Trust, you don’t have a sustainable Relationship. This applies to both Men and Women.
I have some female friends, and they call me and ask my advice about their partners. They are looking for a male’s perspective about something either their husband or boyfriend said or did. I do the same thing. Sometimes I just need another females perspective about a particular situation; I am unsure of how to handle.     
I apologize men. I cannot give you any Relationship Advise about Women. I am nearly 52 years young, and I still haven’t figured them out. (LOL)

Healthy Relationship Advice

In my opinion, I do know what the Keys to a Healthy Relationship are. Or at least I know what I look for in a Relationship. In a Healthy Relationship, both parties should be able to have opposite-sex friends without Jealousy being a problem.
I have always had a rule I live by; which is any friends I have will remain, my friends. Unfortunately, Relationships come and go, but Real Friends are just as hard to find as True Love is.
If I meet the person I want to be with I want to introduce them to my opposite sex friends in hopes, they will get along and become friends as well. I also want to try and ease their mind and let them know they don’t have any reason to be Jealous.
Here is a list of characteristics I think a Healthy Relationship needs to be successful. I am sure I could think of a few more, but these are the most important in my opinion.
  • Love of course
  • Must-Have Trust
  • Honesty is also a Must Have
  • Need to be able to Communicate
  • Both Parties need to be willing to Compromise
  • Support each other
  • Have Compassion for one another
  • Mutual Respect
  • Understanding
  • Time Apart or Personal Space
Leave Insecurities, and Jealousy in the past where they belong. Also, let Ex’s stay in the past where they belong. (Unless you share Children together.)
“ONLY YOU CAN MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!” If you take the necessary time Alone and get to know yourself and figure out what will make you happy, then you will never be Alone. If you become a happy person, everyone wants to be around you.   

If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website. Or post it to Social Media.
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

What is the Meaning of Procrastination

I can give you the dictionary's definition but really; What is the meaning of Procrastination? And why do we do it? Is it Laziness, or a Fear of the Unknown? Is it just not being sure of ourselves, or is it a Fear of Failure? Is it lack of know how, or could it be we have so much to do that we are overwhelmed and just don't know where to start first, so we are undecided, and do nothing instead?
"You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today." By Abraham Lincoln
So; what is the answer to these questions? Because until you or I can respond to these issues, we will more than likely remain stuck and immobile. Only you have the answer to why you Procrastinate the same as only I have my answers.
The answer lies within each of us! Let's see if we can shed a little light on some of these questions to try and get an understanding as to why we Procrastinate.


For some, it might be just Laziness; but I would say for the majority of us; it's not. So I'm not going to even bother with this issue other than to leave you with this quote just in case it is Laziness.


"Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it."  By M. Scott Peck
Let's move onto some of the other questions I mentioned. 

Fear of the Unknown

Now I know a lot of us have a Fear of the Unknown, and it is something we all need to work on getting over. Why do we fear what we cannot see or understand? In my opinion, it goes back to our childhood and those Limiting Beliefs.
Because when you are a baby, you don't come into this World with a Fear of anything, but yet you have built in natural instincts. But I don't believe Fear is one of them because a baby will put anything into its mouth or pick up anything within reach whether it is dangerous or not.
So; Where does the Fear of the Unknown begin?
Do you ever remember as a child growing up your parents telling you something like this? You better stay out of that room the boogieman will get you! Or something of this nature. I think this is the beginning of where our Fear of the Unknown started. It was a seed that was planted in our subconscious minds and grew from there. 
Think about some of the Fairytales and Bedtime Stories. Now I know you are probably thinking; what has Fairytales, and Bedtime Stories have to do with a Fear of the Unknown? A lot of the stories either had a Big Bad Wolf, Evil Step Mother, Troll, Dragon, Giant or a Wicked Witch.
When we are small children and growing our Brain is still Developing; and our Imaginations are running wild so to speak. Therefore, we have trouble determining what is real and what is make-believe. I can remember having bad dreams and nightmares about Witches, Giants, and other things that either came out of a storybook or a TV show.
I know this may sound stupid to you now because you are an adult and know the difference between real and make-believe, but did you know that the decision-making part of our brain does not fully develop until around the age of 25? So that gives a lot of time for that planted seed to grow.
Now that we are adults and our Brains are fully developed we logically can distinguish the difference. What I think and am suggesting is when you or I start procrastinating our subconscious minds take over, and that Seed of Doubt rises to the surface, and therefore we get stuck and unsure of ourselves not knowing what to do.
"The challenge of the unknown future is so much more exciting than the stories of the accomplished past."  By Simon Sinek 

Fear of Failure

Fear of Failure is another one of those Limiting Beliefs that can be traced back to childhood. In fact, I think it would be safe to say every Emotional Problem you are facing today in your Life could be traced back to childhood, but that is just my opinion.
"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually, be afraid you will make one."
By Elbert Hubbard
It doesn't mean our parents were bad teachers because they taught us from what they knew and learned from their parents. The same as we teach our children what we learned; so the cycle continues. They did not intentionally mean to cause us any harm the same way we don't.
Right or Wrong, we teach our children what we know, and what we were taught ourselves. Fear of Failure in my opinion always stems from being told you are not Smart Enough, Good Enough, or being called names such as Stupid, Dumb, Idiot, Moron, or Embecile to name a few.
The name calling was not always done to us by our parents; because if you had siblings like I did growing up as well as other kids in school; you heard these names plenty of times. But; the only way these names can cause you problems or effect you in any way; is only if at some subconscious level you believe it.
"Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, Amateurs built the Ark; Professionals built the Titanic."  (Anonymous)
If you want to stop being a Procrastinator, I would suggest taking a deep look at your childhood and discover where those limiting beliefs originated from and work on letting them go or overcoming them. 
The Book I would recommend reading is   
The War of Art  By: Steven Pressfield



Lack Of Know How

If you are Procrastinating because you do not know how to do something; the Internet is a marvelous tool. If you don't have a computer or smartphone; learn how to do something the old-fashioned way by going to a Library and checking out a book or just simply buy a book or two on a particular subject to gain the knowledge needed.
Well, this is pretty much all I have to say about a lack of know how, because this day and age, there isn't any excuse for not being able to learn about a particular subject unless you have a learning disability of some kind which prevents it.


I know we all get Overwhelmed a lot of times between work, kids school activities, cooking, cleaning, mowing, and other odd jobs around the house which need to be taken care of; we keep putting things off to take care of everything else that needs our attention. So we tend to get behind on everything which causes that feeling of being overwhelmed, which in turn causes us to procrastinate.
“Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started.”  By David Allen
We just don't know which way to turn or where to start first, so we mentally shut down and do nothing which causes us to feel more overwhelmed, more stress and more procrastination. So how do we break this neverending cycle?
Once I get over my mental shutdown, I reboot by kicking myself in the rear end, and I say or scream it out loud; ENOUGH OF THESE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS!
Then I make up a list either in my head or on paper, whichever one you prefer, and I number them from the most to the least important; crank up some good music and get to work.
Sometimes I even set up a time limit just to see how much I can get done before the time runs out. I have figured out if you make any task into a game and try to make it fun you will be amazed at how much you can get accomplished in a short time.
So my suggestion is; if you are feeling overwhelmed and procrastinating because you have so much to do, try turning your to-do list into some sort of a game. Make it fun and crank up some tunes, preferably upbeat. I am one of those people who seems to work better with some music jamming; that way I can sing and dance while I work and then it doesn't seem like such a daunting task.
If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad. I would enjoy reading them. If you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss, I would enjoy that as well.
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website or post it to Social Media.
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)