How To Work At Home-And Earn Money Online

I created this post for all of those who have been searching for how to work at home and earn money online. Today I will be discussing two of the most talked about with one of them being the most controversial ways on how to work at home and what the differences are.
I will also discuss some of the pros and cons of both types of marketing because I have done both kinds and still do in fact. What I am talking about our affiliate and network marketing.

Why Do You Want To Work From Home?

The number one question you need to ask yourselves is why do you want to work from home? Everyone has there own intentions for wanting to work from home. My reasons were quite simple. I had a high paying job as a supervisor making a good living. But that was all I was doing was making a living. I didn’t have a life! Does this sound like you?

I would get up every day go to work for 10 or 12-hour shifts come home and take a shower, get something to eat, set up for a few hours of family time and then have to get in the bed so I could do it all over again the next day. Most of the time If I didn’t have to work on the weekends; I was so tired I didn’t feel like doing anything except resting up for the following week.

So as you can see that is not a life! That is called making a living!


So, if you know your, reason why you want to work from home. Then your next questions should be how am I going to be able to do it? And what kind of work at home jobs are available? So I started researching on the computer for things like how to work at home opportunities.



How To Work At Home And Earn Money Online?

The two home-based business models I came across the most where network marketing and affiliate marketing. I worked in a sheet metal manufacturing company for 34 years, and I had no clue as to how to do either of these kinds of online businesses. But I knew a lot of people were making lots of money doing these types of activities online.

And it allowed them to have the freedom to create a good life for themselves and their families where they could work from anywhere in the world. I figured if they can do it! So can I and so can you! That’s what I wanted to be able to do is to create a life and not just make a living.

I had no prior experience in affiliate or network marketing, and maybe you don’t either. I just knew I needed to learn how. So I had to figure out how to work at home with a job still supporting me in case, I failed. I searched for what is the best internet marketing course for beginners.

What Is The Best Internet Marketing Course For Beginners?
I knew I needed something with step by step instructions, so I searched through dozens of them before I landed on wealthy affiliates website; It was exactly the kind of training I was looking for with easy to follow instructions. At Wealthy Affiliate, they have step by step training with videos showing you how to perform each task.
Wealthy affiliate takes you through the whole process from start to finish on how to build a website. You learn about SEO and how to find the right keywords to help you get your content ranked on the first page of Google. Wealth affiliate is a community of people helping each other to become successful with affiliate marketing.

So let’s discuss affiliate marketing first. What it is as well as some of the pros and cons. I should mention I have been doing affiliate marketing now for a little over three years. Then we will discuss what network marketing is and some of the pros and cons of it as well.

Affiliate Marketing
What is affiliate marketing? Affiliate marketing is taking an idea or desire you have and building a website around that idea or passion. It is also called a Niche website. You will want to try and pick a niche that also has a lot of market potential. For example something in health care. But you will want to narrow it down to something more specific such as Diabetes.
The goal is to become an authority website all about Diabetes. So you research keywords and are continually writing out good quality content with helpful information such as what to eat and what not to eat if you have Diabetes. The goal also is to get your posts or pages ranked on the first page of Google so that you will start getting traffic to your website.
Once you have several posts or pages with helpful content, then you find products to promote for whatever your content is about on your niche website. Then you want to research different affiliate programs to sign-up for who carry the products you wish to promote on your site. Affiliate programs are free to join and you can sign-up for as many as you like.
Once you are accepted, into these programs, you get the personalized affiliate links that you embed within your website or on the products you are promoting. Then if anyone clicks on your links and purchases something you will earn a commission from the company for sending them, customers.

Not all affiliate programs pay out the same commissions. So you will want to research them and see which ones pay out the most significant percentages. You will have to build an audience or visitors to your website to start getting enough traffic to start making any money from your affiliate links. So now you know pretty much the way affiliate marketing works.


The Pros And Cons In Affiliate Marketing.


    • Flexible work schedule.
    • You own your own business.
    • You’re the boss.
    • You can create passive or residual income.
    • Affiliate marketing is a billion-dollar business.
    • No limit for how much income you can earn.
    • You can build multiple niche websites.
    • You can have many different affiliate programs.
    • Don’t have to stock or ship products.
    • Most of the time you don’t have repeat customers depending on your niche.
    • No guarantee of income.
    • Always have to write new content.
    • It can be a lot of hard work.
    • The competition is fierce.
    • You will have to purchase a website URL. About $15 a year.
    • You will have to pay on average $50 a month for hosting.
    • Affiliate hijacking can occur in which you’re not given credit for your referral.
    • Companies can change their affiliate programs or cancel you at any time.



Network Marketing

What is network marketing? Also known as Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) or (Pyramid Schemes). First off I want to start off by saying that network marketing has been given a bad reputation because of a few unscrupulous companies which I won’t name. But that doesn’t mean that all network marketing companies are evil or that you can’t make any money with them.

Mary Kay, Avon, and even Tupperware, although you don’t hear much about Tupperware anymore, are all network marketing companies, and they have been around for years. Just because in most network marketing companies you recruit a team underneath you doesn’t necessarily mean it is a pyramid scheme.
Network marketing is companies which have a product or service they offer, and they pay distributors or associates commissions when they sell and market their products or services as well as recruit other people into the business commonly known as your downline.
Most network marketing companies you have to pay a minimal monthly fee to be eligible to earn commissions from your downline. Some network marketing companies require you to purchase their products at wholesale prices and then resale them at retail prices. Which I don’t recommend; unless you are a great salesperson!
Not-All-Network-Marketing-Companies-Are-A-ScamNetwork marketing, unlike affiliate marketing, sometimes have websites they provide you with that is already built out with the products or services already added to them. Then you share your site with other people who might be interested in either purchasing a product from you or signing up to become a distributor or associate themselves.
The only bad thing about the websites they provide is that you can’t customize them to your liking. Another difference in network marketing is you can usually make some money pretty quickly if you are with a company which offers good products or services. With the right products, it’s not that hard to make at least some money.

The Pros And Cons Of Network Marketing.

    • With the right products, you usually can make some money pretty quickly.
    • They usually provide you with websites which are already set-up.
    • You don’t have to write new content continually.
    • You don’t have to worry about getting ranked on the first page of Google.
    • Network marketing provides you with a flexible work schedule.
    • You can create passive or residual income.
    • With the right company, you don’t have to purchase stock or ship products.
    • No limit for how much income you can earn.
    • Your earning potential is not solely dependent on your efforts.
    • Repeat customers if you have a good product or service.
    • You can’t customize your website to your liking.
    • No guarantee of income.
    • It can be a lot of hard work.
    • A lot of competition.
    • You will usually pay a minimum monthly fee to earn commissions from your downline.
    • You could be out of business if the company decides to shut down.
    • With some companies, you somewhat depend on your team to help you earn good money.
    • Trying to Find the right company for you.
    • You have no control over company policies.
    • With some companies, you need to be a team leader and encourage and help your recruits.
The Pros And Cons To Working From Home.
    • Not having to answer to a boss.
    • The flexibility, of your time.
    • Drama free.
    • Take breaks when you need to.
    • Can work from anywhere as long as you have a laptop and a wifi signal.



    • No guarantees, on income.
    • You put in more hours than you would a regular job.
    • You have to do the work if you want to make any money.
    • There is no such thing, as a get rich, quick business!
    • You need to be organized and have a plan to achieve success.
Network Marketing Tips.
    • There Is No Such Thing As Getting Rich Quick!
The internet is filled with all kinds of so-called get rich quick opportunities, and I have tried a few of them to no avail. Just Remember There Is No Such Thing As Getting Rich Quick Unless You Win The Lottery! Most of them ended up costing me more money than I ever made that is if I made any money at all because I didn’t possess the right skills.
    • Gather You Some Knowledge And Training.
So before you decide to embark on your journey with either one of these types of businesses, you need to recognize the fact that you need to possess specific skills if you are ever going to succeed with either affiliate or network marketing. They both can be very lucrative with the right knowledge and skill set. You need to understand that you’re doing real business and businesses cost money to operate.
    • Don’t Quit Your Full-Time Job!
So if you still have a full-time job, I suggest that if you are interested in learning affiliate or network marketing. You invest some time and money into a place like wealthy affiliate where you can learn from in your spare time. You can sign up for a free trial of seven days to see that you are getting the value for your money.
    • You, Will, End Up Working Harder At The Beginning Than A 9 To 5 Job.
Affiliate marketing is different from your typical 9 to 5 job which you can expect to get paid every week if you do your job. With affiliate marketing, the reality is that you might not make any money for the first six months to a year while you are building traffic to your website. You will put in a lot of work and effort with minimal reward in the beginning.
    • Research Companies.
The same applies to network marketing that there is No Such Thing As Getting Rich Quick! But, with that said if you do your research and find a good company you can start making money pretty quickly just not vast amounts in the beginning. Some of the skills you learn with affiliate marketing you can apply in network marketing.
How To Pick A Network Marketing Company.
The way I typically pick a network marketing company is like choosing your niche website in affiliate marketing.
Look for a marketing company that is free to sign up for that sale product’s you are passionate about selling. It is a lot easier for you to make some money if you are excited about the products and they are of good quality.
Look for a company that gives you your own Free Personalized Website that you don’t have to create, you don’t have to update, you don’t have to maintain them, and no hosting fees.  All you have to do is share them with others!
I look for a company that my earnings don’t entirely depend on me recruiting and earning money from my downline for me to be able to make some money. I want a company where I can earn some money regardless of what my downline does. Which means being able to earn commissions off of my sales without people signing up.
I look for a company where I don’t have to purchase anything to participate and earn money as an option. But I also understand that unless I choose to either pay a monthly fee or buy a product for myself, I won’t be earning commissions from the people who decide to signup in my downline.
If you choose the right network marketing company and they have a good quality product, then there is nothing wrong with building a team beneath you because they are getting a quality product for there money. And if the product is good, the team will almost sign up on its own because they are getting something of value for their money.


What Is A Home Based Business You Can Start Free?

As I stated at the beginning of this post, I do both affiliate and network marketing. There are a lot of options out there, and as long as you do your research, you can find a legitimate company to work for an earn commissions. The number one thing for me is finding a company who offer products I care about promoting.
I am currently with a company called (CTFO) Changing The Future Outcome.
    • It is 100% free to sign-up.
    • Free personalized website.
    • No website fees.
    • You don’t have to purchase products and resale them.
    • You earn commissions off of the products people purchase.
    • Good quality products.
    • Returning customers.
    • You don’t have to purchase anything to earn commissions.
    • I only recruit people who are interested in buying the products anyway.
    • Yes, it is true the only way you earn commissions off of the people who do want to sign-up is with a monthly product purchase yourself.
    • You don’t have to deal with shipping and handling.
    • Get rich quick! No!
    • Make some extra money! Yes!
    • Earn residual income potential! Yes!
But as I stated up above you need to do your own, research and find the company which is right for you; if you want to learn how to work at home and make money online.
In Conclusion
There is one other significant difference between affiliate marketing and network marketing I thought I should mention. With affiliate marketing, you are always stuck behind a computer screen writing engaging content. Where-as with network marketing you have multiple options on selling the products and are not just stuck behind a computer all day every day.
With network marketing, you can make phone calls, talk to people in person while you are out on the town. Share your website with others including social media platforms. Either one of these could be the best way for stay at home moms to make money online or for you to make some extra income part-time.
I hope this article has been helpful in understanding some of the differences between affiliate and network marketing. I also hope you found some useful tips if you are trying to figure out how to work at home. Of course, there are many other ways and opportunities that you can do for a home-based business. So whatever kind of business venture or job you decide on I wish you the very best!

Sincerely Dale

How To Find A True Love-Soul Mate-Life Partner

You know when you get to that certain age when it is no longer about conquests, and are finally ready to settle down. Now You want to find out how to find a true love to spend and share the rest of your life with because you're sick of all the games.

You're searching for that one person who doesn't play games that you can trust and who trusts you in return. Someone who shares similar views about life, spiritual beliefs, common interests, goals, and dreams such as yourself.

We all need to remember none of us are perfect and we all have our faults and with this, in mind, all of us have to determine what is the most important elements to us in a relationship. In other words, what can we live with and what can we live without?

How To Find A True Love


How To Find A True Love In Search Of Your Soul Mate

If you have been out in the dating world and have had several partners over the years, and none of them have worked out. You should by now then have a pretty good understanding of what you don't want in a relationship.

So now is the time to reflect upon yourself and figure out what it is you do want in a relationship because only then will you know what it is you are looking for in a life partner.

Here is what I want you to do. Sit down somewhere by yourself without any distractions with pen and paper in hand and write down two lists. The first list should be titled. What I don't want in a relationship and the second one should be titled What I want in a relationship or life partner.

Now reflect upon all of your past relationship experiences that didn't work and make out your first list.              

                                            Questions To Ask A Date


What I Don't Want In A Relationship! (Red Flags)

  • I don't want someone who doesn't trust me.
  • I don't want someone who lies.
  • I don't want someone who cheats.
  • I don't want someone who has been married 4 or 5 times.
  • I don't want someone with children.
  • I don't want someone who doesn't have children.
  • I don't want someone who smokes.
  • I don't want someone who drinks.
  • I don't want someone who is controlling.
  • I don't want someone who is possessive.
  • I don't want someone who is overly jealous.
  • Etc.

Now think about what it is you do want and make out your list of things you are looking for in a life partner.


What I Do Want In A Relationship!

  • I want someone whom I can discuss a problem with instead of fighting about it.
  • I want someone who is honest.
  • I want someone who is caring.
  • I want someone who doesn't cheat.
  • I want someone who trusts me and that I trust.
  • I want someone who has similar goals and dreams.
  • I want someone who shares similar spiritual beliefs.
  • I want someone who isn't controlling.
  • I want someone who isn't possessive or overly jealous.
  • I want someone who wants children.
  • I want someone who doesn't want children.
  • I want someone who is in good health.
  • I want someone who is good with finances.
  • Etc.

Now that you have your lists complete about what you do and don't want and you have figured out what is most important to you in a relationship. You are probably asking what's next? You need to prioritize your list from the most to least important.

Making Priority List

Then figure out which ones you are willing to compromise on out of the one's you deem as less important. I hate to think of dating in terms of a job interview but in a sense that is kind of what it is regarding finding your true love.

I want you to take both of your lists and form a series of questions out of them in regards to what is most important to you and commit them to your memory. Then while out on a date you will ask your questions.

I am not talking about grilling your date either but ask your questions during a normal conversation and make a mental note about the red flags.


Red Flag Relationship Warning Signs

I would assume everyone is familiar with the term red flags, but if you are reading this post and are in a younger generation or foreign country and have never heard of this term. It means the answers to the questions you are asking your date doesn't match up with what you deem as important to you in finding your true love.

Red Flag Relationship Warning Signs

Best Questions To Ask On The First Date

  • Question: Have you ever been married?
  • Answer: I've been married four times. (red flag) 

This example shows a person who is not sure of what they are looking for in a relationship.

  • Question: Do you have any children?
  • Answer: I have three kids.
  • Question: Are they all by the same father/mother?
  • Answer: No they all have different fathers/mothers. (red flag)

This example shows a person also whom either doesn't know what they won't, or they can not distinguish the difference between lust and love. It also shows they aren't very responsible either.

  • Question: What kind of work do you do and how long have you been doing this kind of work?
  • Answer: I just started working at this new job doing such and such, but I have only been there for a month now. But before this job I worked this other job for about three months but I had to quit because of such and such reason. Before that, I worked at the such, and such factory for about six months. (red flag)

This example shows a person who is not very financially stable and always seems to have an excuse as to why they either got fired or had to quit their job.

Watch And Listen For The Red Flags

So, if you want to find a partner or mate who is financially stable, it shouldn't be with someone who has had three or four different jobs in a years time. It should be with someone who has had the same job for at least three to ten years.

Even this does not always mean they are financially stable depending on their spending habits. They may not be great at managing their money, but at least they have a much better work record and can hold down a job.

If you made mental notes about the red flags during your date and if there were several that went against what you deem as important in a relationship you need to forget about this person as a potential life partner and move on to the next one. There is no point in wasting your time or theirs.

Just thank this person for the date and let them know you had a good time. But also let them know that you see them more as a potential friend and someone to hang out with sometimes. Because who knows they may be thinking the same thing about you.


What Is The Difference In Lust And Love

The major difference between lust and love is that with love we do not ignore the red flags and we find someone who fits with our list of things we deem as important in a relationship or life partner. Where as with lust it is more of a physical attraction and we tend to ignore all of the red flags we are receiving.

Now we have all dated these kinds of people, and it never seems to work out. Maybe we are physically attracted to them, and all of us appear to think that we can help this person to change into that special someone we have been searching for our whole life.

So we spend anywhere between one to three years with this person and nothing changes; until we have finally had enough and end the relationship. Next thing you know we are back into the dating game all over again. Except for this time we are now two or three years older.

If we continue with this same manner of dating over and over again, we start to get older and in many cases less attractive. So then we began to start thinking about just settling for whatever to keep from being alone for the rest of our lives.

But if it ever gets to this point you might as well live alone because you will never be truly happy with someone if you abandon the things that are important to you in a relationship. You will end up just as miserable if not more so.


Recap – How To Find My True Love

  • If you want to know how to find a true love you need to implement this plan which I put before you. Figure out what is important to you by figuring out what you want and don't want in a relationship and make out a list of these things.
  • You need to prioritize your list from most important to least. Then figure out which things on the list you are willing to compromise on out of the ones which are deemed as least important.

  • You need to form a series of questions from this list and commit them to memory to ask on a date.

  • Make mental notes of the red flags which pop-up from the answers to your questions. If there are too many red flags, you need to move on instead of trying to change someone because you feel a physical attraction towards them.

  • Do not forgo what is most important to you in a relationship just to keep from being alone.

I hope that you enjoyed reading this post and my wish is that it helps you in finding your one true love in life. Or at the very least gives you some ideas as to the questions you need to ask while on a date. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to share them below.

Or if you know of any people in your social media networks who could use this information you are welcome to share this post with them. We have all been in these kinds of relationships before and if not we know plenty of friends and family who have.


Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

How To Change Your Mindset And Change Your Life

Hey, folks, today's topic I wanted to discuss with all of you is about how to change your mindset and change your life. Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? If so! I would like to take this opportunity to see if I can help you change your mindset and change your life.

Would You Like To Learn How To Change Your Mindset And Change Your Life?

Examples Of Stinking Thinking!

  • Are you one of those people who sees the glass half empty or half full?
  • Are you one of those poor me baby types of people that everything just happens to and it's never your fault, or you don't know why bad things keep happening to you?
  • Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try to rise above life keeps kicking you in the teeth and knocking you back down?  
  • Do you ever feel like you have sunk as low as you can go and are at the bottom of the barrel with no way out or no escape?
  • Are you one of those individuals who think Man I've got the worst luck in the world?
Unfortunately, that is what it takes for some people; in order, for them to turn their lives around. I don't want you to be an individual who hits rock bottom thinking there is no way out when the truth is the only way out is up.
What if I told you that there was no such thing as good or bad luck. Would you think I was crazy? What if I said that everything which is going wrong in your life today you brought it upon yourself.
Would you believe me? Of course not! But it's the truth whether you believe me or not!
I want to try and break some of this stuff down for you in the simplest way I can. Everything that has happened in your life up to this point you have brought upon yourself. The good as well as the bad.
Everything which has happened to you up to this stage in life is a total accumulation of your life choices and how you look at life. I know you think what the hell do you know and you are out of your freaking mind. My Fault, Yeah Right! 
Now that you think I am a crazy person let me ask you a few more questions to try and get my point across.
  • If you are broke and don't have a penny to your name who's fault is it?
  • If you are overweight or obese who's fault is it?
  • If you can't hold down a job for being late all the time are not showing up for work whose fault is it?
  • If you already have children and you are still a little more than a child yourself who's fault is it?
  • If you can't keep a decent roof over your head and a dependable car to drive who's fault is it?
  • If you can't pay your bills or buy groceries who's fault is it?
Now you can sit there and blame everyone under the sun for all of your downfalls all you want too. Your parents, The economy, Bad luck, Carma, or whatever excuse you choose to use, but the bottom line is you are the one who has to take control of your life. No one else is in control of your life except you.
So if you don't have the things in life you want then the only way for you to get them is to change your life! My question to you now is, do you want to learn how to change your mindset and change your life?

The First Step

Is to stop blaming everyone else for your problems and start taking responsibility for your actions. Obstacles come along in everyone's lives but it is how you choose to look and deal with them is what counts.
You can look at every obstacle that shows up in your life, (and there will be many) as a reason or an excuse to give up, or you could ask yourself what can I learn from this.
If you can seriously learn to grasp this one concept and treat every obstacle no matter how big or small as either something to learn from or as just another piece of the puzzle of this game called life. Your life will instantly change and get a lot better.
If you learn to treat everything in life as a game, it can be a lot of fun to play and if you do that you will get to a point in your life where almost no one or nothing can get you down.
You will be on a natural high because then everyone will be wondering what you know that they don't.

The Second Step

Is to set some goals for yourself no matter how big or small they are you just needs some goals to strive for and accomplish.
I have a ritual I do every year on New Years while everyone else is out partying. I usually sit down somewhere quiet by myself with pen and paper in hand and reflect on the past year's events while asking myself these questions.
  • Did I accomplish everything I set out to do?
  • Am I satisfied with the job I have?
  • Am I happy with my life?
  • What things do I want to try and accomplish this year?
I always write down more goals than I can get done. I put them up on my wall by my computer where I can see them every day as a reminder. I always mark them off as I get them finished. The ones I don't complete gets put on the Next Years goals with a lot more added to it.
By doing things this way I always have something to strive for, focus on, and accomplish. I know it doesn't sound like much fun does it? One important thing to remember is you always need to celebrate every goal you complete no matter how big or small.

The Third Step

Is I also take a hard look at myself and find things which I don't like about myself and then I work on changing those things as well.
Examples of things I work on about myself.
  • Maybe I need to lose a few pounds.
  • I don't eat healthy enough foods.
  • Smoke too much. 
  • Drink too many sodas.
  • Drink too much alcohol.
  • Gossip too much.
  • Need to exercise more.
  • Talk too much.
  • Need to listen more to other people. 
  • ETC.

The Fourth Step

Is to pick one of my goals from the list and stay focused on it till I get it accomplished and then move on to the next one. Now some goals require more money than others, and I don't fret over it I just skip over it till a later date when I have more money to put towards it.
If I don't get it done this year, then it goes on my next year's list. Don't ever worry yourself over not completing all of your goals like I said I always put more down than I can get done.
The ones which require more money may have to be done a few years down the road, but that is ok because it is just the game of life and nothing more.
A lot of people take things so serious in life such as I got to have this or I got to have that, but the funny thing about getting older is you start to realize the things you thought mattered so much wasn't that important after all.
If a person would learn how to live a simple basic life meaning the things you need out of life.
  • Such as shelter.
  • Food.
  • Clothing.
  • A dependable car.
  • A job.
  • Your health.
  • A spiritual connection with whatever faith you are.
  • A healthy mind.
  • Treat other people the way you would like to be treated.

This is all we need to live a good life!

Everything else is just not that damn important. It isn't life or death because you don't own the most expensive house, automobile, clothing, etc., etc. None of those things have anything at all to do with living a good life.

The Fifth Step

Is bigger and more expensive is not always better. It's about being practical in what your actual needs are in life and how you spend your money.
My girlfriend is always talking about wanting a bigger house. I have a three bedroom two bath home that's about 1500 square feet on nearly six acres of land, and it's paid off, and I no longer have any kids at home.
So, I am here to tell you two of the bedrooms and one bathroom never gets used unless company comes over and spends the night which is not that often.
  • So do I need a bigger house?
  • Or go back into debt for a new house?
  • Not!
I am 52 years old and I don't want to start over paying for another home when I am already out of debt. For me! Now is the time to take all of that extra money and go on some nice vacations and see some of this beautiful world Our Creator made for us.

In conclusion!

I hope you now know some ways in how to change your mindset and change your life.

I sincerely want to apologize to all of my readers.

I know I haven't been writing anything new on here for a while. The only excuse I can give you is that I have been working on another website as of lately in which I hope to be able to help save people lots of money.
So, if you get a chance and like saving money, you can check out my new website here at.
As always if you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website. Or post it to Social Media.
Happy Halloween
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

Mind Your On Business-I-Mind-My Business

Hey Everybody, Today's topic I would like to discuss is why you should mind your on business. How often do we not only stick our noses where it doesn't belong but isn't wanted nor needed? We always seem to have an opinion as to what others should or should not do, but yet our on lives are a mess.
I know we all seem to have this urge to want to help someone else, and this is very admirable. It is one thing when someone asks for your opinion but yet another to just offer without being asked which most of us do. I have struggled and strived to learn how to mind my on business unless I am asked, for advice about something.
"Get your nose out of everybody else's garden. Get your own in order, and stop focusing on everybody else's. Grow what you want to grow in your Garden."  By Wayne W. Dyer- from a book called Staying on the Path
Below is a series of tough questions in which we need to dig deep down for the answers. If we can truthfully answer all of these queries and can take control, and resolve the issues in our on lives.
Then and only then we might be able to help someone else. But only if we are asked, and if not; mind your on business. Everyone always has an opinion which reminds me of another great quote.
"Who told you that it couldn't be done? And what great achievement have they to their credit that qualifies them to judge "Your Ability." By Napoleon Hill
  • Why is it always so much easier to focus on everyone else's problems instead of our own?
  • Why are we so afraid to face our on demons?
  • If we focus on someone else, does that make our problems go away or just take our minds off of them for a while?
  • If we haven't even learned how to confront our on issues how are we supposed to help someone else come to term with theirs?
Because I mind my on business, or at least, try to. I get pissed off when someone asks me a question about someone else. I have a tendency to get abrupt with that person and tell them; I don't know! I mind my on business! And if you want to know something about them; ask them yourself! I am not a huge fan of gossip either.
I asked myself all of the tough questions above, and I will try and share my answers with you in hopes it might be of some help for you.

Why is it always so much easier to focus on everyone else's problems instead of our own?

The answer I received was it is a coping method (Procrastination) to keep us from having to deal with our on problems. But the other thing I learned was to face my problems head on, and as it turns out nine out of ten times, things aren't as bad as you think.

Why are we so afraid to face our on demons?

The answer I received was we are afraid to face our on Demons because of the Fear of Failure. We are scared of being judged by others if we don't succeed. So, therefore, it is much easier not to even try rather than to be seen as a failure.
When we are offering others advice, we have no fear of failure because it's not us dealing with our problems; it's someone else's, and it is someone else's failure if they don't succeed. Not ours!
When we have a Fear of Failure, it always comes back to Seeking Approval. When you seek approval, you are saying to yourself someone else's view of you is more important to you than your opinion of yourself.     Refer to the Napoleon Hill quote above!

If we focus on someone else, does that make our problems go away or just take our minds off of them for a while?

The answer I received is no! Focusing on someone else's problems doesn't make ours go away. It might take your mind off of them for a while, but they will continue to rear their ugly head until you find the courage to deal with them.
The sooner you dig down deep and find the courage. The sooner you can get on with your life and put it behind you. In a few years, you will look back at your life and realize just how insignificant most of the problems you were afraid to face really where.

If we haven't even learned how to confront our on issues how are we supposed to help someone else come to term with theirs?

The answer I received was sometimes we can help someone with an issue they have if we have been through something similar, but again only if they ask for your advice.
The biggest thing is though if someone asks for your help and then doesn't take it don't get upset and take it personally. We tend to do that. We have to remember we are just offering someone a suggestion, and it doesn't make it right or wrong.
Each person has to figure out for themselves what's right for them, and in most cases they just want a person to listen, and a shoulder to cry on.

If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
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Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

What Is A Reputation

Hey Everyone, Today I want to discuss the topic of reputations. What is a reputation and why is it important to have a good one?

What Is A Reputation?

A Reputation is an opinion or belief on how others view you, like a habit or a characteristic you might have; such as being an honest or dishonest person. Reputation is also a label other people put on you such as whether you are considered a good or a bad guy/gal. Or you have a particular skill in which you are either good/bad at doing.
I am the kind of person who doesn't care what other people's opinions are of me, in particular, and I hate labels in which people place on you. What I care about more is my opinion of myself. But, your reputation always precedes you, and people will always have an opinion whether you like it or not. Just the same as you and I will, about others.
What-Is-A-Reputation                    Everyone-Has-Their-Own-Opinion

What Is The Importance Of A Good Reputation?

In my opinion, one of the main reasons for having a good reputation is people are going to talk about you whether you like it or not. So, do you want to be known as a liar, bully, thief, a braggart, or a person whom other people look down on, etc. or someone people can believe in, trust and look up too?
Here are a few reasons why it could be important to have a good reputation.
  • A person is only as good as their word.
  • It helps you out in life struggles because other people are more willing to help you when you need it.
  • It just makes life easier!
But, don't create a good reputation for yourself because of what others think of you, though. Do it for yourself because you take pride in who you are as a person.
Benjamin Franklin said, "It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it."

I Have A Bad Reputation

You might ask. What do I do if I have a bad reputation? How can I change it?  Well, the first step is as with anything else in life; it's, knowing that you want or need to change. You have to start being honest with yourself as well as others.


I believe most people are born with a kind and giving heart. The reason they end up with a bad reputation is that they don't know who they are as a person, and are just trying to fit in somewhere. Therefore they end up hanging out with what is considered the wrong crowd and making up stories to try and impress them; just to fit in.
One thing you need to be aware of if you begin the journey in changing your reputation. People whom you thought where your friends start falling by the wayside; or they try and hold you back. Hopefully, some of them will want to join you in your journey.
Also be aware that people who know you, are not going to believe you are changing your ways. It will take some time to earn their trust and possibly forgiveness. But as long as you begin by being honest with them, as well as yourself. They will eventually come around.

How To Tell If Someone Is Trustworthy?

All you have to do to tell if someone is trustworthy and have a good reputation is to listen and observe, their actions; Because actions speak louder than words. A reliable person is not always bragging about what they did or didn't do. They usually are not trying to impress anyone.
If a trustworthy person tells you, he/she is going to do something they do it. By doing what we say were going to do is what gives a person a good reputation and makes us trustworthy. A person is only as good as their word and sometimes your word is all you have.
So, the next time someone asks you for help or wants you to do something for them. Think about it, before you agree to anything. Decide whether or not you can or want too before committing yourself to helping, or doing a task in which either you don't have the time or inclination to do.
If you agree to do something for or with someone without thinking it through, and then you don't do it, your trust and reputation go down the drain. Before you know it, and if you continue to act in this manner; you have a bad reputation and are considered not trustworthy.
If-You-Are Dis-Honest     Your-Reputation-Is-Crap  

If you enjoyed this post, or even if you didn’t;  please leave a comment good or bad, I would enjoy reading them; or if you have a question or a topic that you would like to discuss. I would enjoy that as well.
If you know people who could benefit from this message, please be sure to tell them about my website. Or post it to Social Media.
Sincerely Dale (Life Coach)

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